And the body said.....

I am a very good read on body language. Kinesic body language it’s called. This is a language that your BODY portrays somewhat without your knowledge. It JUST does it, cause it’s right.(lay definition) Scientifically speaking it’s an unplanned communication, posture, gesture, movement, utterance that reveals a truth, lie or a close up. Poker players would call them “tells”. As a matter of fact a very small percentage of our communication is done with words - the majority is done with our body language. We don’t talk!(yes yes yes I a am yapper but this is not my point)

EXAMPLES:

I can TELL Cory is bluffing when he touches his nose every time he has a shitty poker hand.
It’s a tell.(HIS motion of deceit)

I can TELL Kevin did not make the phone call he promised cause he is rubbing his legs.
It’s a tell.(HIS motion of close up-or avoidance)

When Ruepert talked about his sick mother he looked upward to the right, however when he talked about Shaniqua, his new girlfriend he looked to the left.
It’s a tell.(HIS motion of truth-candid)

This is not obvious to the tellER really, they don’t realize they are doing it, but to the tellEE you are sharing more information than you could, should or WANT to, or are possibly sharing ALL the information you don‘t know how to verbalize. (I can see you this moment, crossing legs, uncrossing legs, playing with your hair or touching your mouth or even sucking the salvia from your own tongue)

Tell. Tell. Tell. TOLD!


I can hear/see you! I can hear/see you in a crowd without listening to a word! As a matter of fact, I play the game, “what is this person REALLY trying to convey“, in public situations. Admittedly I have a VERY exciting life.

Disclaimer: (I have a lot of these disclaimer thingys) I am not trying to embarrass anyone, rather assist awareness. Hmm an Awareness Assistant - sounds like it should make BIG BUCKS! .(my palm is upward as I say this so shell out the $dough$)


Though you tellERS may think you have the world DUPED,you don’t. My only concern is whether you have yourself duped. Convinced yourself?.?.?

Tsk Tsk SUCH a nonverbal people.

LIFE SAMPLE:

I have a friend that brags about everything and REALLY pumps herself up, or shall I say pumps her LIFE up. You have a dog, SHE has three dogs MUCH better than yours, more well behaved, better blood lines and certainly nothing like your mutt. You went to a Nickelback concert and sure as shit she had dinner with Chad(lead singer) and went on to get a text from Cher.(we all know these people) I put in a garden, and her Great Great SUPER Great Uncle Hank built Rome. And believe it or not did it in a day, contrary to the popular saying. People just made that up cause they were jealous.(wikipedia it)

So I watch her...my friend.

At this point turn my ears off. I can no longer hear.

What is she telling me while her mouth flaps up and down? Arms splayed out on the table, fingers fisted inward, head to one side while she reminisces, while head tilts to the other side when talking about death or getting older. Fears. Slapping the table when she tries to get the point across. Running her hands through her hair when the words, I can not hear, are proclaiming “she did all he could!!!!”. And of course, when making a defeating proclamation, crosses her legs like a fine point to the small exclamation.

You want to know what she told me? With no words?

I bet you would! (have your people call my people for specifics)

Listen!

Open up your eye’s and close your ears.

Become aware of what “your special people” are really telling you.

They may be afraid.
She may be unsure.
He may be lying.
May be SO pure.

It’s all there.

Most of us want to truly share our thoughts and dreams, insecurities, happiness, bad pasts and schemes, wit, romance, intentions and inventions. We just don’t know how to SAY it. We remain non communicators.

Or do we?

If you see it,
a “tell“
call it

And if you are the TellER
Watch yourself
Who are you bullshitting
Likely yourself